This post is a little delayed - I had hoped to write it up on our actual anniversary, but work has been a bear since we returned home.

Elyse and I just celebrated our 5th wedding anniversary.

That may not seem like a big deal, but considering 1 in 5 couples who got married the same year as us are now divorced, it kind of is.

Last weekend, my brother and his wife offered to watch our kids so that we could get away.  It was an epic 24 hours of camping, fishing & exploring.  But, I'm going to save those pics for another time.

If you haven't caught on already, I love stats.

So, let's begin with some stats:

Days Married:  1841
Offspring:  2  (1 male, 1 female)
States Lived In:  2 (Idaho & Montana)
Towns Lived In:  5

Coeur d'Alene, ID

 

Harrison, ID

 

Big Sky, MT

 
 

Belgrade, MT

 

Bozeman, MT

 

Homes Lived In:  5  (4 in 1st year...sorry babe)
Cars Owned: 2
Cross-Country Trips to Visit Family: 11  (in miles, that's 1.2x around the earth)
Different Campsites: 21
Pets Owned: 1 (Tiny, the fish)
Days We Fought: 1841
Days We Were Apart:  32
Days We Have Been Together MOST of the day:  1515 (if I had a normal commuting job, the number would be 535)
Days I Haven't Loved You:  0

 

Now that I've made every person without a healthy connection to their emotions vomit in their mouths a little (as an aperitif), let's move on.

ATTN:  This quote will royally tick some of you over-sensitive types, so please read it as it's intended - with deep respect.

 
Women will never be as successful as men because they have no wives to advise them.
— Dick Van Dyke
 

There are 10 things you need to know about my wife:

 

1. She is the most caring person you will meet.

This pic was not staged.  She's literally trying to show <1yr old Hannah the Beartooth Hwy.

This pic was not staged.  She's literally trying to show <1yr old Hannah the Beartooth Hwy.

2.  She is tougher than you.

This picture of her is from Glacier National Park - after she hiked 53 miles over 6 mountain passes, on a severely strained ACL and with blistered feet.  Later that night, we faced the nastiest alpine thunderstorm I've ever witnessed.  I asked her repeatedly, "Do you want to go up to the chalet."  "No, let's stay here" she would say. Oh, and she was 3 months pregnant.

This picture of her is from Glacier National Park - after she hiked 53 miles over 6 mountain passes, on a severely strained ACL and with blistered feet.  Later that night, we faced the nastiest alpine thunderstorm I've ever witnessed.  I asked her repeatedly, "Do you want to go up to the chalet."  "No, let's stay here" she would say.
Oh, and she was 3 months pregnant.

3.  She is numbingly intelligent.

I don't know how, but she's always prepared for every eventuality.  No matter where we are.  No matter what our kids need.  No matter how many mountain goats are mooning us.  She's ready.

I don't know how, but she's always prepared for every eventuality.  No matter where we are.  No matter what our kids need.  No matter how many mountain goats are mooning us.  She's ready.

4.  She's supportive of people to a fault.

Whether it's traveling 7200 miles to make it to her sister's graduation or brother's wedding...or walking out with her fearless kids on to a wobbly bridge (she's scared of heights...they aren't), she's got the world's back.

Whether it's traveling 7200 miles to make it to her sister's graduation or brother's wedding...or walking out with her fearless kids on to a wobbly bridge (she's scared of heights...they aren't), she's got the world's back.

5.  She's Thrifty

She keeps these two clothed in the best stuff available, but spends like a thrift store patron.  Even on budgets so tight, we should have been in trouble, she's kept us comfortable because of her spending habits and constant research.  For instance, on our Big Trip, she spent only $443 on food, gifts for family, and supplies for us...for 33 days.  'nuff said.

She keeps these two clothed in the best stuff available, but spends like a thrift store patron.  Even on budgets so tight, we should have been in trouble, she's kept us comfortable because of her spending habits and constant research.  For instance, on our Big Trip, she spent only $443 on food, gifts for family, and supplies for us...for 33 days.  'nuff said.

6.  She is the world's greatest travel companion.

I don't know another girl who would hike/drive/bike/swim/run/fly/boat/adventure with me to the places we've gone in our half-decade together.  It's to the point that I have a very hard time doing anything solo in the backcountry or traveling anymore.

I don't know another girl who would hike/drive/bike/swim/run/fly/boat/adventure with me to the places we've gone in our half-decade together.  It's to the point that I have a very hard time doing anything solo in the backcountry or traveling anymore.

7.  She has a genuine and deep beauty.

Anything else I have to say on this topic is for her ears only.  But seriously.

Anything else I have to say on this topic is for her ears only.  But seriously.

8.  She is beyond patient.

Here she is, back in 2009, standing in snowpack runoff, begging me for the umpteenth time to stop taking pictures of her.  Her long-suffering of people means she often lets people take advantage of her kindness and generosity - and is fully aware of it when she does.  She will sit across a table from someone she wants to (and has every right to) smack in the face and lovingly ask them if they want anymore coffee.  Of all the qualities a person may possess, patience is one of the most rare.

Here she is, back in 2009, standing in snowpack runoff, begging me for the umpteenth time to stop taking pictures of her.  Her long-suffering of people means she often lets people take advantage of her kindness and generosity - and is fully aware of it when she does.  She will sit across a table from someone she wants to (and has every right to) smack in the face and lovingly ask them if they want anymore coffee.  Of all the qualities a person may possess, patience is one of the most rare.

9.  She is ambitious.

When people hear that she has chosen to be a stay-at-home mom, they react in one of two ways:  1) Genuine happiness for her.   2) "Oh, well doesn't she want to do more?" Those who say/think the second way don't know a few things about her/us.  Of lesser importance, I work from home, so...we parent and do everything together.  More importantly, the intentionality of what she does and who she is is often beyond the comprehension of the person who looks down on her for "staying home."  How do I accomplish so much work in a day?  Her.  How are the kids as far along as they are developmentally?  Her.  How have we kept our finances in order despite massive emergencies?  Her.  How come I'm so frickin happy?  Her.

When people hear that she has chosen to be a stay-at-home mom, they react in one of two ways:  1) Genuine happiness for her.   2) "Oh, well doesn't she want to do more?"
Those who say/think the second way don't know a few things about her/us.  Of lesser importance, I work from home, so...we parent and do everything together.  More importantly, the intentionality of what she does and who she is is often beyond the comprehension of the person who looks down on her for "staying home."  How do I accomplish so much work in a day?  Her.  How are the kids as far along as they are developmentally?  Her.  How have we kept our finances in order despite massive emergencies?  Her.  How come I'm so frickin happy?  Her.

10.  She will be loved long after she's gone.

Though her stubbornness often makes me wonder if she'll out-survive the other 7 billion people on the planet, I do know this for sure:  She is loved by those who know her in depth few people get to love someone.  Whether it's through our kids or the hundreds of people who's lives she touches, she will leave an enviable and lasting legacy for good on this planet.

Though her stubbornness often makes me wonder if she'll out-survive the other 7 billion people on the planet, I do know this for sure:  She is loved by those who know her in depth few people get to love someone.  Whether it's through our kids or the hundreds of people who's lives she touches, she will leave an enviable and lasting legacy for good on this planet.

 

I have more I want to say, but as I need to head out elk scouting in 10 minutes, I'll leave that for future posts.

I love you babe.

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